"She Knows" - A Song about a Girl that Talks in her Sleep.

Hey Crew!
Ben here and I'm excited to introduce you to a new song that we just released called "She Knows". As is the tradition with every song that we put out, I want to tell you the story behind where it came from.

"She Knows" stems from a very personal place for one of the members of the band (I can't say who because I've been sworn to secrecy). The main idea behind the song is all about the end of a romantic relationship. It's that moment when you realize that it's over and that the other person is done with you... even if they haven't realized it themselves yet.

The lyrics to this one actually come from a few different places.

The Main Chorus:
"I don't want to give another heartbreak. Please Tell me She Knows"
That line was the original foundation of the song and something that came from a very personal place to us. It's all about seeing the signs that the person you're romantically involved with is setting you up to be the "bad guy" and be the reason for the end of the relationship. It stems from the idea that not every relationship ends because there is some big blowup (which make "the end" much more complicated because there is no major reason to say goodbye). Since there is no big blowup that is the reason leading to the ending, the actual reasons to leave get much murkier. Our main character in this story realizes that he's being set up to be the "bad guy" and he's just hoping that this girl see's what she's doing and that it actually doesn't have to go down like this.

But... The lyrics of this one just started there. 
After we had this main idea, something very interesting happened while I was out one night that reminded me of this "main line". The rest of the "She Knows" came from a very strange and serendipitous encounter. 

The Verses and Outro Lyrics:
A few months back, I was sitting at a bar at around 12:30AM after I had just finished watching a friend's band play. 

At this particular establishment, there are columns actually separating the patrons at the bar. It's 2-3 seats, a column, 2-3 seats, etc. What is interesting about this is that you can typically hear what is being said on the other side of the columns (even though they might not see you sitting on the other side). I was sitting by myself having a "end of the night" drink when a guy and a girl walked behind me and sat down on the other side of one of the columns.

At first it was just minor chit chat between them, but as the drinks kept flowing, the guy started telling this girl (who I figured out was a long time friend) about the strangest thing that had been happening to him. He said that his long time girlfriend (who was not at the bar that night) has been talking in her sleep the last few months. The really interesting thing was what she had been saying...

DISCLAIMER: I'm not one to usually listen in on others conversations... but these two got kinda loud as the night wore on and it was hard not to hear.

What She Had Been Saying in her Sleep:
Apparently this guy's girlfriend had been falling asleep next to him every night and then within 15 minutes started having "heated fights" with him in her sleep. She was dreaming and it was leaking out. During these supposed "dream fights" she would kick him out of the house, tell him all the things that he did that we driving her nuts about him, and why they were done. Sometimes she would even wake herself up as she screamed "you should go!". He wondered if she ever remembered any of this when she woke up (Surely... "She Knows" what she's feeling... Right?)

The Hardest Part...
None of this stuff would ever come out while she was awake. Things were always respectful and calm between them.

I heard him say that at first he just thought it was her dreaming and that it didn't really mean anything. They never fought while she was awake. While things had gotten a little bit stale and routine at home, he didn't have any reason to think anything was wrong... at first. Things slowly got worse though. After she had been talking in her sleep for a few months, he started to notice that when she was awake, she would ask things like "You're acting strange lately, is everything ok?" and "What's bothering you. You seem like you're not telling me everything lately". He also noticed that they just weren't spending as much time together (the only reason he was out that night was because she was out of town with friends... something that was happening more and more as of late).

And even though he didn't feel like he had changed, he felt like all of this was starting to connect with the stuff that she was saying when she was asleep. 

The last thing I heard him say was what really stuck with me...
He told his friend that he was positive that his long time girlfriend was done with him and that she just couldn't figure out how to end it... because there wasn't some "big problem". He just figured that they had run their course and that she had decided that they was no way back... and that it was only leaking out when she slept. 

And... he ended the conversation with "and it makes me sad, because this is someone who really helped me become who I am... and I love her for it".

It was a heavy ending to the night...

Whether it's right or wrong to listen to people's bar conversations...
That's where "She Knows" comes from. An idea that sometimes relationships end because they've run their course (not because of some big problem) and a real world conversation of this actually happening to someone... and him only knowing his girlfriend was done because she tipped her hand while talking in her sleep.

So... This song is dedicated to that guy 
(and his probable ex girlfriend who talks in her sleep)
If you're reading this, I hope things worked out for you both and that you've both found a better fit. (and that you're both sleeping a little better).

You can listen to "She Knows" right here.

I hope you enjoy the song and the (odd) story behind where it came from.